Should Have Been Aborted

Ryan Scott Bomberger’s birthmother was raped in 1970. He “should have been aborted.” But Ryan was born and adopted by the Bomberger family in 1971. Ryan Scott writes:

I am one of those “unwanted” children.

I am the one that the abortion movement preaches will never live a happy life.

I am the one whose future would be marked with hardship and despair.

I am, according to the tenets of the pro-abortion faith, a mistake and should’ve been aborted.

I am the .3 percent that defined Roe. v. Wade.

Comments

[Amanda]

One problem I see with abortion and adoption being pushed together so heavily (when there honestly is little correlation if you look at the facts, statistics, and research) is the idea of "unwantedness." Is Ryan reunited? Does he KNOW that he wasn't wanted?

I am a reunited Adult Adoptee and an individual conceived from rape. I was not "saved" from abortion because my First Mother never considered it--although the Christian community I lived in growing up was more than eager to make me the "poster-child" for anti-abortion regardless which, quite honestly, did nothing for my self-esteem. I was also not "unwanted." Because my birth state does not empancipate impregnated minors, when a pregnant woman applies for welfare, the income of her guardian is taken into consideration. Her guardians were not eligible for welfare but were not in the financial position of being able to care for their 4 biological children, my First Mother, and I on their own, so she sought out an agency for help and resources. She did not receive the help and resources she was hoping to and instead was left feeling like a mac truck was headed for both of us and the only way to save me from being "hit" was to sacrifice herself and give me up for adoption (her words, not mine). She has lived her live with severe Depression and Anxiety issues--not just from the rape, but from adopting me out when she did not want to and living her life not knowing if I was "OK" or if she'd ever see me again.

I know several rape victims who surrendered to adoption because they were put in the same position that my First Mother was and I know several adoptees who were products of rape as well. "Wantedness" is not an appropriate correlation between abortion and adoption and certainly an assumption that should never automatically be made. Statistics show that vast and wide majority of women experiencing unwanted, unplanned, and unprepared pregnancies--even when abortion was illegal, choose to parent. It is actually a better assumption that those truly "saved" from abortion are among the non-adopted and NOT among the adopted. In U.S. states where statistics have been recorded, Adult Adoptees seeking reunion or to know their parents names were denied by their parents in only 1 in every 2000. A recent research report has shown than over-all, over 95% of all surrendering parents were "pleased" or "extremely pleased" to have been found by the Adult Adoptee. The vast and wide majority of all individuals surrendered to adoption were very, very wanted by their Original Families who simply could not find a way to keep them.